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Some people take offence that I do not call any male who identifies as gorean “Master”.
I can understand this – it is the culturally accepted title for any free man. It is a tool to remind any kajira of her station and that she is slave, regardless of who is addressing her or who she serves.
A lot of kajira it seems don’t have issue with this and use the “my Master” title as the delineation between free men who do not own her and her own Master. I could even cope with that myself.
However….
Master does not like it. Yeah, the purists would decry that it is not ‘gorean’ to do so. But depending on the context – on the circle, Master usually is a title to be earned, not an automatic right. I do not know much about the leather community, maybe I should learn more, but I do know enough to realise it is an earned title there.
Master also does not like me calling any free man Master because of the cyber trolls – yeah, you can switch off or block them – but why invite them to even attempt?
There are a few gorean men that I feel I ought to use the generic title of Master with; Rocker, Marauder, Shreve, Hassan… to name a few. However, I must beg my Master for permission to use that title with another on every occasion. Sometimes it is granted, other times not.
I am aware that this offends some people, others see it as pedantic and some may just find it annoying. I must obey my Master firstly though and it does upset me when people are offended by me calling them Sir instead…. I do not do it to slight that person – I do it because it is the most acceptable way in my mind to give the respect and honour that free person deserves without breaking my Masters rules or wishes.
If I use the honorific of Sir – I do not do so lightly. I was brought up being taught to respect others, respect my elders… Even my father at aged 58 still called certain people Sir when speaking with them – and he was a good man and I miss him terribly.
I try my best to give people a base level of respect, from there it is up to them in their words and their actions to show me if that is well placed or not. If it is not – then do not expect me to answer you – or alternatively you will find I raise the issue with Master and he will either advise me on what he wishes me to do or deal with it himself.
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kajiradreams,
Never totally understood the whole calling everyone Master thing. Yes, mouse understands that it instills a mindset but when the title is tossed around to any Tom, Dick, or Harry, it loses some of it’s meaning…at least that’s what this one believes. Master, to mouse, is a title well earned, kinda like ‘slave.’
Not that this mouse’s opinion means anything one way or another, but it’s just refreshing to read that some within the Gorean lifestyle, which mouse mostly learns about through your journal and with talks with her own Master, feel the same way she does.
Hugs,
mouse
By: mouse on February 7, 2011
at 3:54 pm
I am far from Gorean paths. I believe the title Master needs to be earned individually, and that mutual respect is everything. I do not accept Jenny calling any other as Master, Sir or any such title. Nor would she. She bows to no other but me.
By: Romantic Dominant on February 7, 2011
at 4:01 pm
thank you both for your comments.
Sir, I completely understand that viewpoint. the title ‘Sir’ for me does not have any other connotations except as a mark of respect, however fits aptly within vanilla settings as well.
mouse {{hugs}} I ‘get it’….. but I don’t agree with it – all it is, is a way of distinguishing free from slave and denoting their position as above us. I don’t agree with it for exactly the same reasons you state – and how many of us are there out there within an active gorean community in rl?? There is none in my neck of the woods!! Yet any Tom, Dick or Harry jumps online and demands respect. I am grateful that Master has his stance, even if he will quite often refuse my request to respond to a free Man on fet using the title Master.
*grins* in any case… i’m not a sheep…
By: kajiradreams on February 8, 2011
at 11:59 am
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